I love you

To those of us who still have our parents

And when I say “have,” I mean parents who are present in our lives. The regular family structure. The typical fatherly roles, the motherly ones. Even when those roles are reversed—maybe the father stayed home to raise you while the mother provided—it doesn’t matter.

My point is: if you’re someone who has a parent or both parents actively in your life, maybe it’s time to slow down and extend to them the kind of love you dream of giving a future partner.

Because one day, and it may come sooner than you think, you will be the parent. And the love you once longed for from a partner you’ll start to long for it from your children.

One day, we’d talk about you, but for now, take that love and give it to your parents. The ones who loved you unconditionally, who do not think of what to benefit from you but just want to, because, they love you.

You see the 5 love languages? Give your parents whatever it is their love language is. I’m not saying do this so that your children would do to you. No, infact I don’t believe in doing things for reciprocation. Check my last post to see my stance on this

My parents, their love language is as follows

1. Words of Affirmation

2. Receiving Gifts

3. Quality time

They don’t really care about physical touch or Acts of Service. I’m so grateful that I get to know this and they appreciate me when I try to do this for them. Because they do this too.

if you want to be present, show them how much you care. This would help your conscience and give you peace.

I want to give you an assignment, pen down your parents love language, then try in the little ways you can. For me? I prioritize sending them cute messages every morning or I randomly tell them how much I love them, we fight no doubt. They call me when I’m not in the mood, sometimes I shout at them 🙈. What I started doing, I don’t pick their calls when I’m not in the mood to be nice and send them a message that just says “I’ll call you back”. It might take days for me to remember but when I remember to call. I call them when I’m relaxed, I listen to them I speak about myself too and I tell them how much I love and miss them.

Your parents might not be like mine that has patience to even understand what I’m going through, when I firstly started I use to just send it as message, until my dad became more comfortable with him hearing I love you from my mouth. Most times his response is “THANK YOU” or “I love all of you” 😂😂😂. lol, atleast my message was passed.

Dear Reader, love your parents not as guilt, but as it should be.

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